Why Is It "Okay" To Not Be a Math Person, Yet We Must All Be Able To Read and Write?

Many people proudly say, "I'm not a math person," without hesitation. They might even joke about their struggles with numbers or calculations. Yet, admitting difficulty with reading or writing often feels embarrassing or shameful. Why is it socially acceptable to be open about math anxiety but not about literacy challenges? In this blog, Coach Glyn, from Royal Prep Academy, explores this curious difference, offering insight into why it’s okay to feel uncomfortable with math and how embracing that discomfort can lead to growth.

Why Math Anxiety Is So Common

Math anxiety affects a large portion of the population. Studies show that up to 60% of students experience some level of anxiety when faced with math tasks. This feeling can start early in school and persist into adulthood. Unlike reading and writing, which are seen as essential life skills, math is often viewed as a specialized subject that not everyone needs to master fully.

Several factors contribute to math anxiety:

• Early negative experiences: Struggling with math in childhood can create lasting fear.

• Teaching methods: Traditional approaches sometimes focus on memorization rather than understanding.

• Cultural attitudes: Society often stereotypes people as either "math people" or not.

• Pressure to perform: Tests and timed exercises increase stress.

  
  

Because of these factors, many people feel comfortable admitting they are not good at math. It becomes a shared experience, almost a badge of honor to say, "I’m not a math person."

Why Reading and Writing Are Viewed Differently

Literacy is fundamental to daily life. From reading signs to filling out forms, writing emails to understanding instructions, these skills are essential. Society expects everyone to read and write well, and failure to do so can lead to serious disadvantages.

This expectation creates a stigma around illiteracy:

• Social consequences: People who cannot read or write well may face exclusion or judgment.

• Employment barriers: Many jobs require basic literacy.

• Self-esteem impact: Struggling with reading or writing can cause shame and embarrassment.

  
  

Because literacy is tied to independence and communication, admitting difficulty feels like admitting a serious limitation. This fear of judgment makes people less likely to openly discuss literacy challenges.

The Role of Identity and Social Norms

People often define themselves by their strengths and weaknesses. Saying "I’m not a math person" can be a way to set realistic expectations and avoid pressure. It also connects individuals to a group that shares similar feelings, reducing isolation.

In contrast, admitting poor literacy skills threatens core aspects of identity. It challenges the idea of being capable and independent. Social norms reinforce this by valuing literacy as a basic skill everyone should have.

How Embracing Math Anxiety Can Help

Accepting that it’s okay not to be good at math opens doors to learning and growth. Here’s how embracing math anxiety can be positive:

• Reduces fear: Acknowledging anxiety lowers stress and makes math less intimidating.

• Encourages asking for help: People are more likely to seek support when they don’t feel ashamed.

• Promotes alternative learning styles: Understanding that math can be learned in different ways helps people find what works best for them.

• Builds resilience: Facing challenges head-on strengthens problem-solving skills.

  
  

For example, many adults who once said they hated math have found success through practical, hands-on approaches like budgeting, cooking measurements, or DIY projects. These real-world applications make math relevant and less abstract.

Practical Tips for Those Who Struggle with Math

If you feel uncomfortable with math, you are not alone. Here are some ways to ease anxiety and improve your skills:

• Start small: Focus on simple problems and build confidence gradually.

• Use visual aids: Charts, graphs, and drawings can make concepts clearer.

• Practice regularly: Short, consistent practice beats cramming.

• Ask questions: Don’t hesitate to seek explanations or alternative methods.

• Apply math to daily life: Use math in cooking, shopping, or planning trips.

• Find supportive communities: Join groups or classes where people share similar experiences.

Changing the Conversation Around Math

We can help reduce stigma by changing how we talk about math. Instead of saying "I’m not a math person," try phrases like:

• "Math isn’t my strongest skill, but I’m working on it."

• "I find math challenging, but I’m learning."

• "I’m exploring different ways to understand math."

  
  

These statements acknowledge difficulty without defining identity. They encourage growth and normalize the learning process.

Why It’s Important to Support Literacy Without Shame

While math anxiety deserves understanding, literacy challenges require urgent attention and support. Creating safe spaces for people to improve reading and writing without fear of judgment is crucial. Programs that offer adult literacy classes, tutoring, and resources help break down barriers.

Encouraging open conversations about literacy can reduce stigma. Sharing stories of overcoming reading or writing difficulties inspires others to seek help.

Final Thoughts

It’s okay to be comfortable admitting you’re not a math person. Math anxiety is common and understandable given how math is taught and perceived. Embracing this discomfort can lead to learning and confidence. At the same time, society must continue to support literacy without shame, recognizing it as a vital skill for everyone.

Coach Glyn

Founder and Math Coach at Royal Prep Academy

www.royalprep.org